Rebecca over at Weight Wars (who I find very inspirational, BTW – I have no idea how she manages to organize these fabulous challenges and projects!) has launched a year long project called Happiness Online, based on Gretchen Ruben’s book The Happiness Project: Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun. (In the interest of full disclosure, this is an Amazon affiliate link).
The whole purpose of this project is to focus on improving our own happiness with our lives. I read the book, and although I found some of the ideas a little too zen for me, the fact is, I have found that my own happiness directly relates to staying on track with my weight loss/maintenance, my fitness… everything! Every month we will set resolutions around a theme (hey, monthly goals – no wonder I want to do this!) and work towards those goals.
Oh…. October is going to be hard for me. I’ll be blunt – October reminds me too much of August (Contemplate the Heavens) – a bunch of self indulgent navel gazing. 😛 I will say this for the Happiness Project so far. I have realized I’m actually pretty darned happy with my life the way it is. Of course there are things I wish I could change, but I can only change those things I can control, and my own reactions to the actions of others.
OK, now that I’ve got that little bit out of the way, on to goals for October. Gretchen chose to study a type of meditation (NOT going to happen), keep a food diary (already do), examine True Rules (I didn’t really get this, but it appears to be about our preset views on the world), and stimulate the mind (she went for hypnosis).
So since nothing Gretchen did appeals to me, how can I work on paying more attention, and being more mindful? I do have a habit of multi-tasking, a lot. The fact is, I’m busy – I find most people are. If I don’t multi-task, things don’t get done. I think I’m going to try to frame my goals around this.
1. Find Ways to Say No
Yep, there it is. I take on too many tasks, and am a fussy perfectionist. I need to learn to let go of things – if they aren’t done perfectly, it almost never matters, and then at least I haven’t had to be responsible for them! So finding ways to say no will involve assigning chores to my kids, saying no to social/professional events, and generally taking on fewer tasks. Katy Widrick wrote about her “Summer of No”, and it really rang true for me.
2. Be Mindful of Relationships
In complete opposition to Saying No, I really need to work on my social skills. When I say that, what I mean is, I need to remember to thank people more, I need to try harder to reach out and spend time with people…. I like people, I just let so much other stuff clutter up my life that I forget to do the small things like send thank you emails, etc. I have some specific people in mind for this, so I will make a list and work on reaching out this month.
3. Make Time for Family
Family game night and family movie night are being pushed aside far too often. I need to focus on spending some quality time with the kids, and Bruce & I need to revive date night. We spend a lot of time together, but we need at least 1 evening a month together, no kids, no training, no running, no nothing!
Ok, that’s it for October. At least I feel like I have a fighting chance at achieving these goals!
Goals update: We ran, then I swam yesterday, and I finished this post. Not spectacular, but I’ll take it.
Not setting any – my life right now revolves around working, and working out… that’s it. Keeping my head above water… barely! I will get my Grand Forks Half Marathon race report written for next week though!
Wishing my youngest son a happy birthday…. he’s 10 today!